Why Your Body Is Holding On (A Somatic Healing Perspective for Moms)
- MORPH By Mor Y.
- Apr 28
- 3 min read
I worked with a client yesterday—someone I’ve been working with for a while now.
And you know how sometimes… you need to hear something a few times before it actually clicks?
Like, you know what to do.
You understand it.
But there’s still something inside of you that just… won’t move.
That feeling where you know what you should be doing, you even know how to do it, but there’s no drive. Something feels blocked.
That’s actually very normal.
A lot of the work I do—especially in somatic healing for moms—is like peeling layers of an onion. We go layer by layer, until we reach that one moment where something shifts.
And suddenly… it clicks.
The Story She Was Holding Onto
With this client, one of the biggest things I noticed from the beginning was how attached she was to the story that people had wronged her.
And they did.
She grew up in a very abusive family dynamic. She was made to feel like she wasn’t good enough. Like she was the black sheep.
So she learned to do two things at the same time:
Cut herself off from who she really was
And feel a lot of anger and hurt toward the people around her
There was also one major event, about 20 years ago, that really shook her. And from that moment, it created a ripple effect: years of painful, unhealthy relationships.
Even though she knew how she was treated wasn’t okay… there was still something deeper telling her:
“You’re wrong.”“You’re not enough.”
So she kept abandoning herself more and more… trying to fit in, while also carrying all this anger.
And this is where it gets really important.
Because in our work together, one of the biggest things we focused on was helping her see that she was still holding onto all of it.
The anger. The resentment. The pain.
And a lot of the time, we hold onto these emotions because it feels like we’re:
Teaching them a lesson
Holding them accountable
Not letting them “get away with it”
It’s almost like… if we forgive, then it means it was okay.
But what’s actually happening is something very different.
Your body is holding onto those emotions to keep you safe.
Because as long as that anger and pain are there, your nervous system believes it’s protecting you from ever going through that again.
That’s how powerful the subconscious mind is.
It goes beyond logic. Beyond what you think. It’s your body choosing safety above everything.
But here’s the thing...
For 20 years, she kept repeating the same pattern: Not doing the things she loves, not wearing what she likes, not expressing herself fully.
Because she was afraid of being judged or rejected. So little by little, she kept cutting off pieces of herself and at the same time, the anger inside of her kept growing.
Eventually, her body started to reflect that.
She developed autoimmune issues and digestive problems. This is something I see so often in women, especially moms.
The body is incredibly intelligent. If you’re not digesting your emotions… your body will start struggling to digest physically too.
So if you’re dealing with:
Digestive issues
Immune system challenges
Chronic pain
There’s a very real possibility that your body is holding onto emotions that haven’t been processed.
The First Step Is Awareness
Before anything can shift, you have to become aware.
Where am I still holding onto anger?
Where am I shrinking myself to be accepted?
Where am I choosing to stay in spaces that make me feel like I’m not enough?
Because every time you do that…
You’re sending your body the message: “There’s something wrong with me.”
Real healing happens when you: Start listening to your body, become aware of what you’re holding and allow yourself to feel and release it.
That’s when things begin to shift. That’s when I see the biggest transformations. Pain that’s been there for years… gone. Anxiety easing. The body regulating again.
If you take anything from this, let it be this: Your body isn’t working against you. It’s been protecting you this whole time, but you don’t have to keep holding onto everything you’ve been carrying.
If you’re ready to start releasing what your body has been holding onto, this is the work we do inside my 1:1 HEAL program—where we go beyond the mind and into the body.
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